By Andrea Wachter, LMFT

For many people, the topic of climate change stirs up deep emotions like anxiety, helplessness, and hopelessness.

While these feelings are a reflection of care and concern for the planet, if we allow ourselves to live in consistent states of worry, we drain the energy and clarity we need to take meaningful action and create positive change.

If you find yourself caught in cycles of climate change anxiety, here are some ideas for you.

Self-Compassion

It’s so important to meet your emotions with compassion. Allow yourself to fully feel what arises in you and meet your feelings and sensations with empathy.

You might say or think understanding words like: Of course I feel this way. I deeply care about the planet. My feelings make perfect sense.

You could place one or both hands on your heart or the part of your body where you feel your emotions most strongly and offer yourself kindness in that moment.

You can find a creative outlet for processing your emotions. This could be through journaling, poetry, art, or movement.

Practice breathing into your sensations and emotions and offer them compassion with your soothing breaths.

Conversing with Anxiety

Try speaking to your worry like you’d speak to a frightened child. Ask these questions to the worried part of you:

• What are you hoping to accomplish by worrying?

• Do you think you will actually help?

• What could we do instead that supports thriving, clear-headed action?

• What do you need from me?

Thank your worry for trying to help. Teach it that sending stress signals won’t solve problems, but that grounding yourself will. Just like a child needs guidance, your limbic system—the emotional center of your brain—needs reassurance and redirection.

Write for Insight

It’s easy to feel powerless in the face of global challenges. One helpful way to regain a sense of empowerment is to distinguish between what’s beyond your control and what’s within it. This writing exercise can help you get clarity around what to surrender and what to focus your energy on.

1. List all the things that are out of your control regarding climate change: For example: weather patterns, current government policies, or other people’s actions.
2. List what’s in your control. For example: composting, recycling, using energy-efficient appliances, voting for climate-focused leaders, supporting or joining organizations that are dedicated to environmental restoration and preservation.

This writing exercise can help you gain clarity, and free yourself from spinning your wheels over the things that are out of your control.

Practice Mindfulness

Anxiety often pulls us into catastrophic, futuristic mind movies. While these mental stories might feel like they’re preparing us some way, they rarely offer real solutions.

Instead, practice focusing on present moment reality. Not only is this better for your body, but it leads to clearer thinking, which will help you know when and how to take action.

Take a moment to notice the surface beneath you, your body breathing, and the sounds around you. These simple yet powerful anchors are easy to overlook when you’re caught in a cycle of worry.

Here are a few quotes that can inspire us to lean into mindfulness practice:

• “The best way to take care of the future is to take care of the present moment.” — Thich Nhat Hanh

• “Do your little bit of good where you are; it’s those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world.” — Desmond Tutu

• “You cannot save the world. You can only do what’s in front of you to do.” — Unknown

By grounding yourself in the present, you create space for clarity and meaningful action.

Set Boundaries with Media

Staying informed about the planet is important to many people, but overexposure to distressing news can increase anxiety. To find balance, consider these tips:

• Set time limits for consuming climate-related news.

• Seek out stories that highlight environmental progress and innovation.

• Take intentional breaks from the news to recharge.

Notice What’s Thriving

For those of us who care deeply about the planet, it’s easy to focus on bad news or the parts of nature that are being threatened. It’s equally important to turn our attention to what’s still here and thriving.

Take time to notice the trees, flowers, gardens, and bodies of water that reflect the planet’s resilience and beauty.

Look at pictures and videos of abundant, healthy places in nature and really appreciate all that’s here.

Not only is this life-enhancing, but it also helps balance our perspective and remind ourselves of the aliveness and wellness that still very much exists on the planet.

Recite Soothing Statements

When anxiety arises, it can help to repeat soothing phrases. Here are a few examples:

• “I can only do what I can today.”

• “In this moment, I am safe.”

• “Nothing exists outside of this moment.”

• “I will take action when I feel moved.”

These simple phrases can help ease your mind and bring you back to the present moment.

Community Connection

If you’re feeling anxious about the state of the planet, you are not alone. It can help to talk to someone who really understands. This could be a trusted friend, therapist, or an eco-anxiety support group.

Facing climate anxiety with self-compassion and mindfulness doesn’t mean ignoring environmental challenges. It means grounding and taking care of ourselves so that we can be present and effective.

When we welcome our feelings, redirect unhelpful thoughts, and focus on what’s within our control, we empower ourselves to make a meaningful difference, one conscious breath at a time.

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By Andrea Wachter, LMFT

Does this scenario seem familiar?

You’re going about your day and suddenly you’re overtaken with butterflies in your belly and worried thoughts in your mind.

Your worries might be attached to certain situations in your life, or they may not even have a specific topic or target.

All you know is that the pit in your stomach and the tightness in your chest are back (or rarely leave) and your mind is swirling with unpleasant, unhelpful thoughts.

You know that there’s nothing you can or need to do in the moment to tend to the topics you’re worried about, yet your mind is off and running with worry and your body is coursing with the chemical cocktail of cortisol.

Now, see if this scenario sounds familiar.

You’re sitting on the couch watching TV. A movie comes on and you quickly realize that you don’t like it at all. Maybe it’s a scary movie and you’re not a fan of scary movies. Maybe you don’t resonate with the characters. Maybe you don’t like the dialogue or the sound.

What do you do?

I’m guessing that you pick up the remote and change the channel.

So, how does worry and changing the TV station relate to each other?

When we realize that our minds are playing their worrisome movies, we have the option of changing our internal channel. This is really good news. Our minds may be accustomed to regularly playing their stressful programs, but we have the remote control.

Is it easy to change our internal channels? Not at first for most of us, especially if we’ve been playing and replaying scary movies for a while.

We also might continue to experience unpleasant physical sensations after we’ve switched to a pleasant or present channel. Just like we might feel the uneasy aftereffects of watching a horror movie, many people feel some lingering sensations after a bout of worry.

But, with consistent channel changing, feeling present, calm, and self-compassionate can become our new norm. Then, feeling worried and anxious begins to feel like an old rerun that signals us right back to the remote.

So, how do we know when it’s time to change our internal channel? Our bodies will tell us. Worrisome thoughts don’t feel good. So, when we worry, our bodies give us feedback. All we need to do is stay aware of how we’re feeling and what thought patterns we’ve been thinking.

Awareness enables us to break the trance of unpleasant or un-present programs like worry or fear. Awareness gives us the option to choose alternative channels to focus our attention on rather than allowing our painful thought patterns to repeatedly play.

Awareness is waking up to the fact that our minds have returned to the fear, worry, or anxiety channel. Then, we can decide what to do with the remote. We do not have to sit powerlessly and watch worrisome mind movies all day and night.

So, what are some of our alternative channels if we realize our minds have been binge-watching the worry network?

One option is to switch to the presence program. Here we can tune into our senses in the present moment. We can notice what we’re touching, hearing, seeing, tasting, or smelling. We tune into our breathing and the surface beneath us. There will always be a breath and a surface to turn our attention to.

We can switch to the compassion channel by offering ourselves compassion, understanding, acceptance, and validation. Whatever emotions or sensations we’re experiencing can be softened by the comfort of our own compassion.

We can click on the nature channel. We can think about nature or appreciate our favorite things in nature. We can go out in nature. We can watch videos or shows about nature.

We can change our internal channel to the appreciation station. We can think, say, or write about anything we appreciate. This could be as simple as our blankets and pillows, as profound as our loved ones, or anything in between. There’s always something to appreciate.

Similarly, we can watch the gratitude channel by expressing gratitude for the people, pets, places, or things that we feel grateful for.

We can turn on the love network and tap into anyone, anyplace, or anything that feels easy to love.

We can turn to the happy channel where we smile, laugh, or listen to some comedy.

We can click on the relaxation station and do something that feels soothing, calming, or relaxing to us.

We can turn on an inspirational channel and watch, read, or listen to something that inspires us.

We can watch the music channel by playing music, singing, dancing, or watching music videos.

We can switch to the creative channel and immerse ourselves in a hobby, craft, or any type of creative project.

There are so many channels we can click on. All it takes is the awareness of the channel we’re on, and the desire to change the station. Over time, we get better at spending more time on desired networks and our bodies reap the benefits.

Let’s try a little experiment.

Think of one thing you’re worried about (just for a moment!)

Notice how you feel in your body.

Now, change the channel by thinking of something, someplace, or someone you appreciate or feel grateful for. Spend a moment here and notice how this feels.

Hopefully, you experienced the difference in your body right away, even if it was slight.

Of course, we can always reach out to supportive people if our minds are stuck on the worry channel, but since we spend 24/7 with ourselves, who better to change our internal channels than us?

With increased awareness and consistent practice, we can get better and better at taking charge of our focus and reap the benefits of a calmer nervous system, a clearer mind, and more moments of peace and ease.

It’s important that you don’t berate yourself if your mind grabs the remote and switches the channel back to some old unpleasant reruns or future fearful movies. This is about being aware of what our minds are up to and remembering that we have the option to compassionately and consistently change our focus.

I hope you will soothe your worried mind whenever it needs soothing. Then, resume the channels that feel the most compassionate, calming, uplifting and inspiring to you.

If you find yourself stuck on the worry station and would like to join me as I guide you in a channel-changing exercise, click here.

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By Andrea Wachter, LMFT

Many people experience some level of pre-social apprehension, but for some, the idea of a social gathering, presentation, or romantic date brings up dread and panic.

If you’re someone who becomes terrified by the mere thought of going out of your social comfort zone, consider trying one or more of these tools.

Out of the Mind, Into the Body

Tuning into our breathing and our senses provides easily accessible alternatives to the anxious mind movie channel. You can slow down or deepen your breaths; notice any shapes or colors you see; tune into the sounds you hear or the surface beneath you. As simple as it may sound, dropping down from the mind and into our bodies can have an immediately grounding and calming effect.

Focus on Facts, Not Thoughts

Notice the difference between thoughts and facts in the following scenario.

Thought: They just looked over at me and now they’re laughing. I bet they’re talking about me.

Fact: There are two people laughing in the corner of the room. I have no idea what they’re laughing about.

When we let our anxious thoughts run wild, we feel the corresponding stress chemicals inside our bodies. Shifting to concrete facts is a great way to tame and redirect our busy minds.

Self-Soothing Statements

Come up with a comforting phrase to repeat. Here are some ideas:

It’s okay if I feel uncomfortable, all feelings pass.

This is practice. I get better at what I practice.

I don’t have to be perfect, nobody is.

Self-Soothing Actions

Imagine that a friend felt the exact same way that you do about socializing. What might you say to them or think about them?

Imagine that one of your hands represents your compassionate heart and the other hand represents anxiety. Then clasp your hands together and feel one hand offering comfort to the other.

Compassionate Self-parenting

Think of the anxious part of yourself as a young child, and try speaking to the anxiety like you’d speak to a child you care about.

Ask yourself if it’s anxiety and self-criticism that are causing you to not want to go to a social event or if it’s really not a match for you. If the event or activity is something you want to try, you can treat yourself like a loving parent might treat their anxious child. Offer yourself empathy for how challenging it is and gently encourage yourself to give it a try.

Time-limited Try

If there’s an event or activity you’re considering attending, encourage yourself to try it for a short time and reassure yourself that you can leave if you truly want to.

Buddy Up

If possible, it can help to bring a supportive friend or relative to an event. This will give you someone to talk to, as well as help you feel supported while you connect with others. If it’s a pet-friendly environment and you have a pet, that can also be supportive, as well as a great conversation starter.

Find a Focus

Find a goal or task to get you into the moment. For example, if it’s a dinner party, you can offer to help set the table or do the dishes. Look around and see if there’s anyone you might be interested in talking to. If someone else is alone, consider connecting with them. They might be feeling just like you.

Learn from a Positive Past

If you have any memories of going to something social and it turned out better than you feared, you can remind yourself about that. An anxious mind tends to spin on worst-case possibilities, so it helps to counteract the negatives with some positive recollections.

Reality Check Your Past

Think back to how many instances something challenging actually happened vs. how many moments you’ve worried about something hard happening and it never did.

Thank your mind for trying to help you, but let it know that most of the time it’s overworking and inaccurate and actually causing anxiety.

Upgrade Anxious What-ifs

Anxiety is often made of “what-if” worst-case scenarios. How about thinking of some potentially positive what-ifs? What if I talk to a few nice people at the party? What if I end up having a good time? What if this presentation goes okay and helps me feel less anxious for the next one?

Upgrade Outdated Beliefs

Write down any stressful thoughts that you’d like to be free of. Then cross out each one and write a new, updated belief. See if you can find any evidence to support your updated thoughts. You can also record your new thoughts on your smart phone and listen to them regularly to help them sink in.

Time Travel

Think back to the first time you remember feeling socially anxious. Then, in writing, imagination, or with a safe supportive person, tell that younger version of you exactly what you think they needed to hear.

While we can’t actually turn back the clock, we can upgrade our painful beliefs from the past which frees us up in the present.

Scan for Safety

It’s human to scan for potentially unsafe things in our environment, but you can also look around and see what might seem safe. It could be a cozy couch with a person sitting alone. It could be a room with nice artwork to look at. It could be a patio with fresh air.

Anxious thoughts lead us to believe that we’re unsafe, but it’s usually our thoughts that are causing us to feel unsafe. You can challenge the mind’s negativity bias by noticing that you are actually safe.

Practice Makes Progress

Remind yourself that we get better at what we practice and try to view any social event you go to as practice.

Conversation Preparation 

Prepare a few topics or stories ahead of time that might make for conversation. Perhaps a comedy you’ve seen or an interesting documentary. You can also ask other people starter or follow-up questions if they share something with you.

It can also help to prepare a short statement to describe what you’ve been up to or how you might respond to someone asking about you. Here are a few examples:

“I’ve been taking a few classes and taking more walks in nature. What about you?”

“I’ve been doing some reading and working on getting clear about my next move. I’m not sure if I’m going to go back to school or stay at my job.”

“I’ve been doing some job hunting and also listening to an interesting podcast.”

Let Your Imagination Lead

Before attending a social event, you can practice visualizing yourself feeling comfortable at the actual event. You can do this anytime, but right before sleep and first thing in the morning are especially powerful times to plant new seeds into our subconscious minds.

Try on Your Desired State

Ask yourself, If I felt comfortable or confident, what would that feel like? (Even if you don’t feel it yet!) See how your posture might be or how you’d feel inside if you felt comfortable or confident. You can try it on, even for a minute.

In my children’s book I have a chapter called Strong as a Tree or Wiggly as a Weed. I ask readers to imagine or sense what it might feel like to be as strong, sturdy, and grounded as a tree, as opposed to a weed that blows around in the wind. Nature can provide great role modeling.

It’s so important and empowering to remember that we’re not anxious about an event because of the event. We get anxious because of our thoughts about the event. Fortunately, we can change our stressful thoughts, the same way we change the TV station if a show comes on that we don’t like. We can upgrade our repetitive, anxiety-producing internal programs to ones that are kinder and more helpful. With practice, we can learn to befriend ourselves so that wherever we are, we’re in good company.

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By Andrea Wachter, LMFT

Worrying can be extremely draining. If our minds are consistently running off into worst-case “what if” scenarios, it’s not only stressful and unpleasant, but it also tends to cloud our internal wisdom. This makes it challenging to know exactly what we need in any given moment.

Like children, our worried minds need compassion, wisdom, soothing, and redirection. Given that you’re with your mind 24/7, you are the best person for the job.

If you’ve been unable to effectively calm your worried mind, the following words can help. You can read them to yourself and imagine that your wise mind and compassionate heart are speaking to your worries. You can record the following words on your smart phone and listen to them in your own voice. Or you can join me here as I read them to you.

Dear Worried Mind,

I see you. I understand you. There are important and valid reasons why you feel the way you do. I really appreciate you trying so hard to keep me safe and to stay on the lookout for danger. You are so diligent, always factoring in the hard things that have happened in the past, always on the lookout for what might happen in the future.

It’s not your fault, worried mind. You’ve been programmed and you’re just running your automatic programs. I know you’re just trying to help. The problem is that you’re not actually helping. What you are doing is creating stress inside of our system.

You’re thinking about invisible scenarios that don’t even exist right now and you’re making this body feel like these scary scenarios are actually happening when, in fact, nothing is happening right now, other than reading these words and breathing with a supportive surface beneath us. We are safe right now. Can you feel that in this moment we are safe? If something challenging happens that we need to deal with. we will take action, but you chime in when nothing dangerous is actually happening.

It’s true that hard things have happened in the past, and I wish I could guarantee you that no hard things will happen in the future. But what I can tell you is that the percentage of time that hard things have happened and will happen doesn’t compare to how often you worry. You worry when we’re totally safe, lying in a cozy bed. You worry when we’re going about our day, and everything is really fine. I know there are hard things happening in the world, and hard things are part of life. But I also know that you’ve been working overtime. and your efforts don’t actually help.

All your worrying does is cause us to miss out on the actual, factual moment. When you go off into invisible unpleasant mind movies, we miss out on the many moments when everything is actually okay. I want to live in reality, not scary mind movies. The more we live in the present moment, the more prepared and centered we’ll be when life’s challenges arrive. You try to deal with challenges before they even arrive, and all that does is make more moments challenging. I thank you for trying so hard, dear worried mind, but you are totally overworking.

The truth is that nothing actually exists outside of this moment. I know your scared, and it’s not your fault that you worry. The world is moving so fast, and hard things have happened. But if you can rest more and take a back seat while I —wisdom, awareness, and compassion— lead the way, we will have so much more clarity and peace.

If you have authentic emotions to express, I will welcome them with compassion, but you spinning out on worries is not helping. If you stay quiet, it can make more room for me to hear the intuitive wisdom of my heart.

So, I want you to rest now, worried mind. I thank you for trying so hard to predict, plan, and prepare, but we really can’t figure out life ahead of time.

Let’s bring our focus to the present moment, to what is actually, factually here: this breath… now this breath… this breath… and now this breath. Notice the surface beneath us and all the support of that surface. Let’s loosen our gripped muscles just a little bit more. Let’s notice what’s actually here. Notice the sounds around us. Let’s come home. Let’s spend more time in reality and less time in futuristic, scary mind movies.

You can rest now, worried mind, and when you need me, I will soothe you again and again, just like I would soothe a worried child. I will redirect you again and again, from the world of not-now, back home to now.

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By Andrea Wachter, LMFT

One of the most important aspects of healthy communication is being able to share our feelings, thoughts, and needs respectfully. But, what happens when commonly used words are expressed as feelings, but are actually thoughts and assumptions about what someone else did to us?

See if any of the following sentences sound familiar. Perhaps these are words that you’ve said, thought, or heard.

“I feel abandoned.” “I feel manipulated.” I feel betrayed.”

Although statements like these may seem and even claim to be expressing feelings, words, like abandoned, manipulated, and betrayed, are not emotions. They are words to describe what we think another person did to us. Psychologist, author, and founder of Non-Violent Communication, Marshall Rosenberg refers to such words as pseudo-feelings.

In addition to abandoned, manipulated, and betrayed, here are a few additional pseudo-feelings that often get mistaken for emotions:

• blamed
• judged
• neglected
• unappreciated
• unloved
• used
• rejected
• ignored
• misunderstood
• pressured

This list is not exhaustive, but if you’re new to the concept of pseudo-feelings, perhaps you can see that the words listed above are not emotions. They are assumptions about how someone else treated us.

What often happens when people use pseudo-feelings in a conversation is that it puts the receiver on the defense because the “feeling “it’s about the receiver rather than the speaker.

When we feel an emotion, it’s inside of us. It’s our truth, our experience. Nobody can argue that we feel the way we do because we feel it. (Well, someone might try to talk us out of how we feel, but that’s another story or article.) If I tell you I feel sad, that’s how I feel. That feeling is inside of me.

But, if I tell you I feel judged, now I’m telling you/assuming/accusing you of judging me and this significantly decreases the chances of connection, clarity, or resolution.

In general, when we express our emotions to someone, we have a deeper need that’s connected to those emotions. Since pseudo-feelings tend to put the listener on the defensive, they usually don’t help us get our needs met. They often do just the opposite.

So, what’s the alternative to a pseudo-feeling? This would be to identify your true feelings and needs. For example, if you’re thinking you “feel abandoned,” this might mean that you feel hurt, angry, or afraid. These feelings could indicate a need for support, mourning, or hope. If you’re thinking you “feel manipulated,” you might feel angry or confused and have a need to be understood or to understand.

If you find yourself focusing on what someone else did to you or how someone else “made” you feel, try tuning inside and identifying your authentic emotions and needs instead. Here’s a list if you get stuck.

Naming our feelings and needs often brings a sense of clarity, especially if we do it with self-compassion. Once we get clear on our needs, we can see if there’s something we can offer ourselves or perhaps there’s a need we can respectfully request from someone else.

Keeping an eye out for pseudo-feelings and shifting our focus to authentic emotions and needs can have a profoundly positive impact on our relationships with ourselves and others.

Respectful communication requires intention, awareness, and for most of us, lots of practice, but it’s well worth the effort. Once we’re fluent in this most important language, it significantly increases the chances of both people feeling heard and connected. And after all, isn’t that what we all want?

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By Andrea Wachter, LMFT

Our minds are basically recorders that play (and replay) their soundtracks all day long, sometimes all night long too. Some people have recordings that tend to be more pleasant and present. Some people’s thinking patterns lean towards the optimistic or realistic side. Others, not so much. Many people are plagued with worrisome thoughts that lead them to feel chronically stressed, anxious, depressed, or pessimistic. This is where compassionate awareness and regular upgrades come in.

While we don’t have a say in the type of mind we were born with, or developed as a result of our life experiences, we do have the option of staying aware of our thoughts and pressing pause, delete, or re-record. We do have choice about how often we become aware of the nature of our thoughts and how we respond when we realize that our thoughts are unhelpful, unkind, or untrue.

If you realize that you’ve been lost in a trance of worrisome thoughts, praise yourself for breaking the trance and then try some of these mind quieting tools.

Come to Your Senses 

If you become aware of worrisome thoughts, shift your attention to actual, factual reality: your body breathing, the surface you’re sitting, standing, or lying on, any colors or shapes you see, the sounds you hear. Shifting into sensory mode is a wonderful way to redirect an overactive mind.

Notice Who’s Noticing 

Once you become aware that your mind has been playing an unpleasant, scary, or stressful soundtrack, you now have two different internal parts: your thoughts, and the part of you that is aware of your thoughts. They are not the same thing. Your awareness is like the vast, open sky and your thoughts are like clouds. Try tuning into that vast awareness. Ask yourself: Who or what is noticing my thoughts? See what that feels like. Sometimes, it can feel like we are our thoughts, but if that were true then when our thoughts passed, we would pass too. Our thoughts come and go, but this vast awareness is always here and we can get better at tapping into it and spending more time in it.

Air Out Your Mind

Try picturing an imaginary window or door on top, behind, or on the sides of your head. Then see or sense yourself opening those windows and doors and airing out your mind like you would air out a room.

Tropical Breeze Breathing 

Take a few slow deep breaths and imagine that your breath is like a soothing tropical breeze blowing through your body.

Spreading Calm

Locate one body part that feels either neutral or calm. (It could even be the tip of a toe!) Tune into that sense of neutrality or calm and visualize it spreading throughout your entire body.

Compassionate Connection

Imagine that your worries are like a frightened child and your wise mind and compassionate heart can connect to that child in a compassionate manner. You can do this in writing, verbally, or in your imagination.

Thank Worry

It can seem counterintuitive to thank worry, but the truth is that our worries are only attempting to help. They’re trying to prepare, plan, or prevent. The system glitch, however, is that in most cases, worry doesn’t actually help. It just makes our nervous systems feel like whatever we’re worrying about is already happening. Thanking worry for trying to help, as opposed to letting it take over or berating yourself for worrying, can help soften and shift out of a chronic worry loop.

Reassure Worry 

When we’re feeling unsafe or in danger, we don’t generally have time to worry. We take action or we deal with the situation as best we can. Worry usually occurs when we’re thinking that we (or someone or something) won’t be safe or okay in the future. Try reassuring yourself that in this moment, you are safe. You can even repeat that to yourself: “In this moment, I am safe.” Then notice if, how, or where in your body or your environment this feels true.

Check Your Responses

How do you tend to speak to yourself when you’re worried? Is your internal soundtrack harsh and critical or kind and empathic? Even if you realize you’ve been berating yourself, you can still be kind to yourself about that. Any moment you can drop the internal criticism and pick up some inner kindness.

Wonderful What Ifs

Oftentimes, worried thoughts take the form of, What if… What if this horrible thing happens? What if this doesn’t happen? Ideally, we spend most of our time in the present moment rather than future What ifs, but if your mind is stuck in a worrisome What if loop, try a What if upgrade: What if this works out really well? What if my test results are good? 

Worry Inventory 

Reflect back on some of the things you’ve worried about in the past. Chances are, in many cases, the things you worried about never even happened. In some instances, they may have, and you’re now on the other side of the situation. Either way, it can help to acknowledge that it’s not our worries that help us through our challenges, it’s action when needed, time, support, and acceptance.

Action Inventory 

If your mind is spinning with worries, ask yourself if there’s anything that needs to (or can) be done. If there is, you can write down your action plan and free up your mind. If there aren’t any actual steps to take, let your well-intentioned mind know this and then redirect yourself to something calming, uplifting, present, or practical.

Trust Your Future Self

Oftentimes, when we’re worried about something in the future, we don’t have the information and intuition that we’ll need (and have) if our worried scenarios ever come to pass. We can’t know what we’ll need in the future because we aren’t there yet. Of course, if you get an intuitive sense about how you can take care of a future situation, honor that. But, if your mind is stuck in worry mode and there’s nothing you can do in the present, try trusting your future self. Tell yourself: If that happens, I’ll deal with it then. I’ll have information and intuition that I don’t have now because it’s not happening now. Then come back to the actual, factual present moment and take the best care of yourself that you can. This will pave the way for strength and clarity to help you face whatever the future may bring.

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